Unschooling Your Child?

Dec 12, 2011
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Not only do we pass on eye color, but we pass on who they will become.  I haddnaa show on where the dad is a police officer and he teaches his children about 911.  They were even able to go to the call center.  I am a doula and going to school to become a nurse practioner.  What do I think is important to teach my children?  We are always talking about the body, health, and and lots of chemistry.

I was watching Lisa Ling’s “Our America” on schooling children (I love her series!).  One family ‘unschools’ their children.  I know they promote discovery.  I think this is very important for children to be able to develop themselves as individuals.  I was wondering though, how do the parent’s interests play into that?  Are they somehow unknowingly coerced in a certain direction?

I truly think children need to be exposed to situations and people who are very different than us.  How do you expose your children to thinking and seeing life in a different way?  What may your persuasions be?

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11-11-11

Nov 12, 2011
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I know you love your baby just as much as I love mine.  Parenting is about sacrifice, doing the right thing when you really don’t want to, and the responsibility of taking care of their health.  Being a good parent (I didn’t say perfect haha) starts when that stick has a positive.  I know today is a special day, 11-11-11.  I know it’s good luck for the beginning of something, including life.  Is it worth risking your health and your baby’s to force labor (or even worse, cesarean surgery)?  There are women who have birthed via surgery just to say their baby was born today.  I find it very sad really.  As a parent, our focus should be what is best for our child, not what our selfish desires want.  I know sometimes it is important to give to yourself, that’s not what I’m saying.  Buying my new purse doesn’t compromise my child’s health or well being.  If I chose for my child to be born before they were ready, that is endangering their health and well being.

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Unless it endangers the baby or the mama, why can’t we just let the baby decide when they are ready?  It is amazing all the biological processes that happen to signal, “I’m done”.  Pretty please, trust your body and your baby!

Happy Birthday to all the wee ones who joined earth today, planned and unplanned!

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Do You REALLY Not Like Your Child?

Jun 14, 2011
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Are you ashamed to say you don’t like your child?  Does it cause you to feel like a failure?  In this month’s issue of Redbook Magazine, one mother wrote a provocative article about her experience with motherhood.  From the moment her little girl was born, she said she didn’t feel that connection.  As her daughter got older, she didn’t hit the typical milestones and the wedge grew deeper.  She went on to have another daughter and experienced an immediate bond.  She eventually sought medical help and found out her daughter had a growth hormone problem.  After her child was on medication, she says she began to feel connected to her and her daughter became more “normal”.

This is a part of motherhood no one wants to talk about.  As with breastfeeding, we are led to believe when the baby comes out, all is perfect.  When the fact of the matter really is, there is a learning curve for both baby and mama.  It isn’t always rainbows, glitter, and unicorns.  Ya know what?  It’s o.k!  Yes, I said, that feeling (or lack there of) is o.k!  Even better, you aren’t the only one!   If you have never known someone who shares your frustrating experience, now you have.  Our second little one was very sick when she was born and spent some time in the NICU.  After she came home, that first year was full of crying (both of us), projectile vomiting, and many doctor visits.  We never really bonded because I was so exhausted caring for this little baby that I couldn’t muster any affectionate feelings.  When she grew into toddlerhood, I had to put forth great effort to have those affectionate feelings.  I thought it very sad that I had to put forth effort to enjoy my child.  I’m supposed to be her mommy, for goodness sake.  As time went on, I had to put forth less and less effort.  Now, the bond is the same as with my other 3.

Even to say we love our child but don’t always like them seems taboo.  Isn’t this true though?  Your precious little toddler is extra quiet.  You go to investigate.  Upon turning the corner you see your favorite lipstick smoothered all over the wall, your toddler’s face, and ground into the carpet.  At this moment, while you will always love your precious cherub, I would venture to say you don’t like them much at that moment.  Perhaps your child has a habit that just gets under your skin.  It’s o.k, just think about your own parents and what drove them nuts.

We place such high expectations of motherhood.  When the expectations aren’t met, we feel like we somehow failed.  Recently my hubby and I have had conversations about the pressures placed upon us.  I have a confession, my kids don’t bath every single day and we don’t read them bedtime stories while they are nestled in bed.  Instead of focusing on what society expects of you, stop and go within.  Think about your values and what you want to pass on to your children.  Don’t focus so much on being the perfect mommy, instead focus on teaching your children the values you want them to possess.  If you mess up, that’s quite o.k.  Apologize and move on.  After all, we are human BEINGS, not human DOERS.  If you are struggling, don’t be afraid to reach out, there is always someone who knows how you feel.

A Placenta Study Needs You

Apr 19, 2011
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placentaBelow is information for a study on placenta encapsulation.  If you have no idea what it is, check it out on our site.  Your help would be invaluable!  The goal is to have more concrete evidence of the benefits of placentophagia…..

Melinda Ferguson and I have just launched a pilot research study on the effect of taking placenta capsules on postpartum mood disorders.  It is a small pilot that we hope will provide enough intriguing results that funders will be interested in supporting a full research study on placenta encapsulation.  If you know of anyone who meets the following criteria and is interested in participating in the study (either taking placenta capsules or not), please have them contact me.

  • Pregnant with their first baby
  • Pregnant with only one baby
  • Due between April 1 and September 1, 2011
  • 25-38 years old
  • Living with their partner during pregnancy and during the study period
  • Planning an out-of-hospital birth
  • At-risk for postpartum mood disorders, such as (but not limited to):                                 – History of mental health problems in self or family                                                         -Family history of mood disorders                                                                                     -History of PMS or sensitivity to other hormonal shifts
  • Willing to volunteer their time for this study
Carrie Kenner
Big Belly Services
206-725-7758
www.bigbellyservices.com
carrie@bigbellyservices.com
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Eats On Feets Is Not a New Dr Suess Book

Nov 19, 2010
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Women have been breastfeeding each other’s children for centuries.  Eats on FeetsIn many culture’s this is still the case.  In our western culture movements have been started to get back to our roots in different realms (do you eat organic?).  One of those movements is the sharing of breastmilk.  We know “breast is best”, we also know some women aren’t able to breastfeed their babies for various reasons.  Some of these women want to feed their babies breastmilk, but are forced to buy formula.  There have been milk banks set up.  There are a few around the country and the breastmilk can be expensive.  There is a new movement called Eats On Feets (I know sounds like a Dr Suess book title).  You can volunteer your extra milk, or request milk.  It doesn’t matter if your baby is one month or one and a half.  Check out the site Eats on Feets, it’s a world wide movement.  If you are in Oregon, “Like” their facebook page.  Support mamas who want the best for their babies but need some help.

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Vintage Maternity circa 1950’s

Oct 28, 2010
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maternitypatternI have been reminded how far maternity care and perception has come.  I am in the search for a couple vintage sewing patterns.  In my search I have come across maternity sewing patterns circa 1950’s.  It is amazing how far we have come from minimizing our swelling bellies to now, showing them off.  Not just how we dress ourselves, but in every area.  It’s amazing to think women smoked and thought nothing of it.  Feeding your baby formula was seen as a status symbol.  Men weren’t allowed in the birthing room and twilight sleep was a popular form of pain relief from childbirth.  Thankfully times have changed!  We now celebrate the pregnant silhouette.  Our partners are allowed to support us during childbirth and even catch the baby.  Unmedicated birth and even home birthing is making a comeback.  The biggest thing, we now have more choices and the freedom to choose what we want.

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FDA Says ‘Stop Using Sleep Positioners’

Sep 30, 2010
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I have much younger siblings and remember the gear we used to take care of them. Sometimes I am one of those “remember when we used…….” I mean really, how safe was it to have the baby in their car seat up front next to my mom driving? We knew nothing about BPA’s. I could go on and on sitting here laughing at the fight of whose turn it was to wind the swing back up.

The FDA and Consumer Product Safety Commission are reniging their sleep positionerapproval of sleep positioners. They suggest consumers stop using them immediately and reiterate not to have anything in the crib other than a small blanket and baby. In the past 13 years there has been 12 reported deaths from suffocation due to these sleep positioners. The Commission has received dozens of reports of babies who were placed on their back then were found later to have rolled to crazy positions inside the positioner or even outside the positioner. FDA pediatric expert Susan Cummins, M.D., M.P.H, says backtosleep“The safest crib is a bare crib. Always put your baby on his or her back to sleep. An easy way to remember this is to follow the ABC’s of safe sleep—Alone on the Back in a Bare Crib.””

For the companies that have previously received approval, the FDA is requiring them to submit data proving the benefits outweigh the risks. They are also requesting the manufacturing companies suspend production of anymore until they have reviewed the data and can confidently say the benefits outweigh the risks.

Perhaps these will become another item we look back at and laugh saying ‘remember when we used sleep positioners?’

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