There are a few things I wish I knew then that I know now.  This is one of them.  I often wonder what her life would have been like.  What is “this” you ask?  The value of breastfeeding and where to go for support.

See, the journey with our little girl began quit rocky.  About 10 hours after her birth she was whisked to the NICU in a flurry of activity and we were left with no explanation other than that she was very sick and needed immediate care.  This chaos became our lives for her first year.  I had successfully breastfed our first child and thought round two would be cake also.  Because she was in the NICU, our bonding was interrupted and breastfeeding was a rough road.  I struggled for 2 weeks to breastfeed her exclusively after we came home.  This little child whom I was supposed to love and care for had me so flustered I wanted to give her back.  Yes, you did hear me right, I didn’t want her anymore.  I then felt guilty for feeling this way (a whole different journey).  After two weeks I called a friend beside myself with tears streaming down my weary face.  She encouraged me to buy some formula and give up breastfeeding because it had me so stressed.  I did.  I didn’t reach out for professional help (such as a lactation consultant), I did no research, nothing (I am ashamed to say).   This choice of formula created many more problems looking back in retrospect (20/20 always seem so clear, huh?).  To make a long journey short so you don’t get bored by the details, she ended on Nutramagin (a hypoallergenic formula) and we tried every medicine and technique to help with her projectile vomit to no avail.  She still has eczema, is the one who gets the most colds that last the longest, has digestion issues, and my only child to have enviromental allergies.  Granted, this poor baby had 3 blood transfusions and numerous tests/scans which we are sure compromised her little system, then not being breastfeed I am certain contributed to her current health.

Photo by Mike.HanlonLooking back, I wish I had sought more support from someone who was trained in postpartum issues and breastfeeding support, such as a postpartum doula or lactation consultant.  Knowledge is power and through my training to become a postpartum doula I have gained the knowledge that would have helped me back then.  I truly believe that first year would have been a more enjoyable time for the whole family.

I do not judge those who exclusively use formula.  I feel sad because I know they just don’t have the knowledge and are robbing themselves of such an amazing opportunity.  Did you know that breastfeeding causes the brain to release happy chemicals into your body?

Here are some amazing, evidence-based facts about breastfeeding that you may not have known(if you want the sources, let me know):

• There is less waste product produced from human milk i.e easier diaper changes.  In my experience, less, shall I say, pungent too.
• Zinc and iron are more effectively absorbed from human milk than from formula milk
• Breastmilk conforms to the needs of your baby.  A cold running through your house?  Your breastmilk will pump up the antibodies to help out babies little body.
• If your baby is premature, your breastmilk will have a makeup similar to colostrum for up to a month in contrast to a full term baby which is a couple days.
• Human milk has a laxative effect, while formula milk can cause constipation.
• Formula  fed babies have an increased risk for allergies and allergy related conditions such as eczema.
• Formula increases the sensitivity to infections which can result in the dreaded diarrhea.  Again, another practical easier diaper experience:).
• Babies weaned before 1 or formula fed have a higher risk of speech-language disorders.
• Diabetic mothers who breastfeed are more likely to need less insulin.
• Your belly shrinks quicker and you can zip up those jeans faster postpartum.
• The risk of osteoporosis goes up for mother and child when formula is used.

These are just SOME of the benefits for mom and baby.  Amazing, huh?  According to a Parent’s Network poll in American Baby, 32% of first time moms plan to use a lactation consultant, while 57% actually hire one.  If you are a first time mom or have had previously had breastfeeding difficulties, search out local lactation support before you birth so you are prepared if breastfeeding becomes a bumpy road.  Remember the portrayal of establishing  breastfeeding being this natural and easy process is just that a portrayal and not always reality.  Sometimes your body isn’t compatible with breastfeeding.  These instances are very few and very far between.  Most of us just need a little expertise to get us going.

To start you on your search:

• LaLeche League
• International Lactation Consultant Association
• Check your local hospitals
• Kelly Mom
• Search google or bing using lactation consultant or postpartum doula along with your city and/or state
• Ask other moms you know
• Find local support groups and check them out before you birth
• Near Portland or Salem? contact us.  Near Newberg or McMinville?  contact Laura Dunn
• Ask your Childbirth Educator

Those ideas should start you on your way to finding help locally.  I wish you all success in this amazing journey of bonding with your baby.  If you are local

I HAVE gone on since to successfully breastfeed two more children.  You can be successful too if that is your goal!

Here is a copy of an email I received from a colleague.  I believe we must use evidence based care and not just believe what people tell us (yes, even doctors).  She tried to find studies and couldn’t so she is conducting her own.  She is looking for Muslim women who are breastfeeding to help with a study…..if that’s you or someone you know, keep reading:

Anyone interested in joining a study on nursing while fasting please

keep reading….!!!

I saw the topic of fasting while nursing came up and when I was
approaching my first Ramadan as a nursing mommy, I (coming from a
science/medical background) decided to see if there were any research
studies on the topic. I found just one study looking at Muslim women
and it only studied, I think, 12 women. Anyhow, every year the topic
comes up and mommies look to other mommies for advice and it usually
goes both ways….some mommies saying it makes milk supply go down,
others saying they were able to do it just fine. So this year I am
working on studying the topic myself. I am still working out the
details of the study but I just realized how quickly Ramadan is
approaching so I need to get the word out ASAP so that I can get as
many people to participate as possible. The study will be looking at
a number of different factors and try to see which, if any, help to
determine which women will be able to fast while nursing and which
women will have troubles with milk supply or not be able to fast for
other reasons.

At this point, the minimum I need is anyone that is breastfeeding that
is willing to try fasting and do some record-keeping (ie food eaten
each day, # of ounces of fluid taken each day). I may also need a pre
and post-Ramadan baby weight check. So if anyone is interested (and
please please pass this around to all women, all around the world
even) please email me at saadiap@gmail.com

At this point, I would like to exclude women who are also pregnant,
and women who are already experiencing milk supply problems, and
women who are increasingly using formula (since the milk supply may
already be going down due to formula use). Once I get an interest
list, I will email out the specifics.

Please make dua that this is a successful study and helps us to answer
the age old question of whether fasting while nursinng will decrease
milk supply!

And again…please pass this on to every nursing mommy you know!

Jazak’Allahu khayran,

Saadia

As Dr. John Kennell, a pioneer in the field of perinatal health care said, “If a doula were a drug, it would be malpractice not to use it.” I have personally used one and that experience inspired me to become a birth and postpartum doula myself.

When I say the word doula to most people, all I get back is a blank stare. I then have to explain what exactly I do. Are you one of those? Here is a great explanation I have created.

BIRTH DOULA
The professional birth assistant is a woman who tends to the birthing family from early labor until a little after the baby is born. She is trained to deliver continuity of care from home to hospital, be there through changing hospital shifts and alternating physician schedules; serve as advocate, labor coach, and support partner, and above all, help manage the fears of both parents. If it is a home birth, she is trained to take over tasks so the partner can be 100% present. A doula’s presence does not make a birth partner’s presence unnecessary. To the contrary, her presence frees the partner from certain aspects of concern and allows the partner to interact more closely with the birthing woman. The goal is to give the parents-to-be the freedom to focus inward and increase the intimacy of the experience for both the mother and her partner as they meet the challenges and rewards of their unique birthing experience, thereby leaving her with a sense of empowerment and a beautiful and positive birth memory.

POSTPARTUM DOULA
A postpartum doula is a non-judgmental woman with a quiet presence in the home. Most postpartum doulas are mothers themselves who have their own children and enjoy motherhood. By giving emotional and breastfeeding support along with practical newborn care tips and taking care of necessary household tasks such as: grocery shopping; meal preparation; doing the dishes, laundry or tending to the older children, postpartum Doulas help ease the transition into motherhood.

Unlike a baby nurse who focuses her care solely on the newborn, a postpartum doula encourages and teaches parents how to care for their newborn, to interpret their baby’s cues, and to trust their instincts in responding to their baby’s needs, infusing the parents with the confidence and support they need to develop their own parenting style.

After the baby is born you feel sleep deprived, scatter brained, and very forgetful.  I guess for some of us, this continues throughout their childhood.  The joke in my house, “Is it a cheese in the freezer kind of day?”.  I have been known to put food items in weird places.  An old friend used to say, “a few more brain cells are lost after each child so you can handle all the kids” (she had 5 by the age of 27).

Breastfeeding is one of those things that can feel like taking the SAT test all over again.  When was the last time the baby ate?  Is that why the baby is crying?  What side am I supposed to start on this time?  At 2am it’s even worse!  Imagine taking the SAT without any sleep the night before.  If you are pregnant with your first, please don’t be too scared.  Somehow you make it through.  Then, you think about having another one.

I found this product that is a DOH! moment.  It is so simple and yet so practical.  It is a nursing bracelet.  There is a detachable charm which you move to keep track of the time of feedings.  Also, if you are like me and can’t ever remember which side to start on, you can switch wrists to remind you.

Click on any picture.  It will take you to the different sites where you can purchase these smart beauties.

We all strive to be yummy mummies right?  What mommy doesn’t want good lookin’ burp clothes instead of cloth diapers?  Check out the giveway for Swaddle Design’s Baby Burpee.  Even if you aren’t a mommy to be, wouldn’t these make a great gift?  For free too?

When it comes to breastfeeding, I’m a modest gal.  I never fed my kids in public.  I was always worried they would pull the blanket down and I would make those around me blush.  I would sit in the car, or plan my schedule around feeding times.  This time around, I am getting a nursing cover.  Pho for Five is having a giveaway for a nursing cover from Bebe au Lait.  I put in my comment for a chance to get one of these chic covers, have you?

Trust me, I know how much work it is to have a new baby.  One of those times I wish there was a camera in my house.  When my third was born, my first was potty training (potty training and teething, my dreaded enemies!).  I remember one time, I was breastfeeding the baby.  Chandlur says he has to go potty.  I can’t unlatch because it was an effort to get him latched on correctly.  I also nursed my kids using the football positioning.  I got up, ran to the bathroom with Vahn still latched.  I helped him on the potty, sat and waited, did the happy potty dance, and helped put his undies and pants back on.  All this while Vahn was eating away.  I was chuckling at that moment and will probably laugh about it the rest of my life.

Even though, your house may be crazy, you still need to take care of yourself.  What good would you be if you died from something that may have been prevented, if only you took action for yourself?  It isn’t selfish by any means!  As mommies, we have to take care of ourselves first or we won’t be able to care properly for our families.

Our boobies (yes, i said boobies), should be at the top of that list.  We have come to learn much more about breast cancer in recent years.  It is growing at an amazing rate, and did you know a majority of women who get breast cancer are the first in the family (this has rung true for my family)?

Here’s some facts:

-Estrogen fuels breast tumors.  Fat cells produce estrogen.  This means, take care of your body and take steps to get rid of your fat.  Also, you will have more energy to play and care for your kiddos.

-This leads me to exercise, which is really just movement.  Don’t think you have to go to the gym.  Lace up your shoes, pull out the stroller, and go for a walk (just work up a sweat, no lolly-gaggin’).  You can even dance with your toddler for a little while.  We know how much sweat we can work up entertaining a little one! This exercise kills off that estrogen producing fat.

-Don’t worry about your birth control raising your risk.  A Danish study of more than 54,000 women found, they don’t increase the likelihood of breast cancer.

-Lastly, the breast is best.  This isn’t just for your baby, but you too.  Breastfeeding lowers hormone levels, however, you have to keep it up for several months for the full benefit.

Now, lace up your shoes, and go for a walk.  If a walk would be a hassle with the number or age of kids, just play with them and work up a sweat.